Gratitude Challenge

The best attitude to have towards anything in life is gratitude…

When you are grateful, you are in a blessed state of mind. So to start the new year, I committed to having an attitude of gratitude each day of the month. Whether it be to thank God or the Universe, there is ALWAYS something to be grateful for.

January 1, 2017: I am thankful that I am alive. It is such an amazing time to be alive. I vow to live more and take life more seriously.

January 2, 2017: I am grateful for friends and family. Without my friends and family I would not be where I am today. The constant push that I get from them is incredibly motivating.

January 3, 2017: I am grateful that I have a roof over my head. I am currently living with my in-laws with my husband. There is not a day that goes by that I am not thankful that I have such a great relationship with each person in our household.

January 4, 2017: I am so thankful today for a speedy recovery after my miscarriage; my body is healing and it shows.

January 5, 2017: I am honoured to be able to enjoy the comfort of being able to take charge of my life and to learn from my mistakes.

January 6, 2017: Today I am just so happy and blessed that I am close with my family and cousins; what a great time we had tonight.

January 7, 2017: Thank you for my family’s health; I know that health is never to be taken for granted.

January 8, 2017: Thank you for opening up my eyes, I truly felt your grace today. Your message at church was so relevant to my life, I felt as if you were speaking to me directly.

January 9, 2017: Thank you for my older sister; there are so many lessons that I have learned from her.

January 10, 2017: Thank you for allowing my husband and I to celebrate today; I can’t believe it’s already been 4 months.

January 11, 2017: Thank you for the magnificent man I get to call my husband. I am so lucky to have met him and to be married to him. He truly pushes me to be a better person and I am so appreciative of his honesty (as harsh as it may be at times).

January 12, 2017: Thank you for all the dogs in my life, Each one of you bring me so much joy and always put a smile on my face with your weird behaviours.

January 13, 2017: Thank you for guiding me to some new apps to keep my health and fitness in check….also thank you for technology.

January 14, 2017: Thank you for showing me a glimpse into my passion. It’s days like this I love.

January 15, 2017: Thank you for allowing me to receive ample blessings from the Evangelist today. I look forward to what you have in store for me.

January 16, 2017: Today I feel blessed that I am able to trust those around me and truly value each of their opinions.

January 17, 2017: Thank you for the boost of confidence I received today; every bit is helpful in regaining my confidence.

January 18, 2017: Thank you for putting the right people in my life. I really appreciate the path you have set up for me.

January 19, 2017: Thank you for allowing me to help others; it gives me such joy when I can make a difference in someone’s life.

January 20, 2017: Thank you for reshaping me and never giving up on me. I strive for consistent and meaningful improvements in my life.

January 21, 2017: Thank you for lessening my fears today. I am so grateful for all the lessons you have taught me. I am slowly beginning to have faith in myself again.

January 22, 2017: Thank you for giving me the strength to improve and for showing me that failure is part of success.

January 23, 2017: Today I walked a lot and though my feet hurt I am so blessed for my body and the ability to walk and run.

January 24, 2017: Today I share the joy and happiness of my newly engaged BFF! Thank you for sending her someone who is truly meant for her and makes her so happy.

January 25, 2017: Today I slept in and it felt great. Thank you for letting me rest today.

January 26, 2017: Today I  went to dinner with two of my girlfriends. Thank you for sending me such dear friends to share this journey of life with me.

January 27, 2017: Thank you for allowing me to be so productive today. I feel motivated when I make progress.

January 28, 2017: Thank you for the extra me time today. I was able to read my book in peace and it was very relaxing.

January 29, 2017: I am so grateful for the health of my family and friends. Thank you for taking such good care of my loved ones.

January 30, 2017: Thank you for the gift to learn. I know what I need to do and will begin to apply self-discipline and ultimately master it.

January 31, 2017: Thank you so much for allowing our closing to go smoothly. We move into our new place very soon and are very excited!

Thank you God for all of these sweet and unbelievably precious blessings.

What are you thankful for today? Would you be able to come up with at least one thing to be grateful for each day?

Stay strong and beautiful!

 

 

 

Progress not Change

We can all use a boost in life when our own motivation and drive starts to dwindle.

With the seasons changing and people catching colds or the seasonal flu, it is easy to find yourself in a demotivated state; wanting to snuggle under the covers for a bit longer and delaying your day.

It’s All About Rituals

I have been practising this Hour of Power for a couple of weeks now and even though I listen to the program constantly, I have to say that I still find it still difficult to do this daily.

Tony Robbins’ Hour of Power

  1. Breathing and moving to change your state
  2. Listing a list of things you are grateful for and visualize what you want to achieve/acquire;
  3. Incantations and Rituals

Breathe in through your nose for 4 breaths and out through your mouth for 4 breaths. Do this for at least 5 minutes, you should find yourself in a relaxed state and your mind is still.

Next focus on allnthebthings you are grateful for. Really appreciate the emotions and feelings that you experiencing…Change the way you feel by changing how you move. As you are moving, shout out incantations aloud….Everyday, in every way I’m feeling _________ and __________. Feel free to fill in the blanks, Tony uses ‘stronger and stronger’ but you can use whatever words you need to.

Everyone is always talking about how they need to change. You could do nothing and things will still change. Tony explains that change is automatic, progress is not. How true is that? What a powerful statement.

So here I am focusing on progress and the habits that I must adopt in order to achieve progress.

Am I Comfortable? Do I Not Want to Improve and Achieve Massive Success?

So what I have been doing all this time? A few weeks ago I attended a Christian Healing Mass; to be honest I didn’t know what to expect. It was pretty overwhelming, seeing people almost being ‘possessed’ by the Power of the Holy Spirit.There were some individuals swaying back and forth, some that were crying and I was a bit intimidated by it all. The person that led the service was a famous Korean Evangelist who had just completed a tour in Asia.

I tried my best to just take it all in and learn what I could from the experience. It was more like a Seminar as it lasted a little over three hours. At the end of the service, the minister asked anyone who would like a blessing to proceed to the front. One by one, the minister blessed each individual; some of them fainting as they received their blessing. When it was my turn, I was a bit nervous and worried about what he would say. He said something that has stuck with me…”You have the gift of administration, you have so many things that you want to accomplish in your life, but for some reason you have a lot of fear and you are very shy, and so I will remove this fear and shyness for you.” I had never met this man before today, and his words impacted me in a way, I cannot explain.

Never the Same

Since that day I have been almost forcing myself to just do things, to build my confidence and prove that I can do it. It sounds a bit crazy, and seems like I am always writing about success or my lack of success, but I believe success is a work in progress…..never ending, ever-evolving and achieved by hard work, discipline and the right attitude.

I know in my mind and in my heart, that I will be able to accomplish my goals and reach a whole different level of greatness, if I just continue to train my mind and work hard.

How do you motivate yourself?

What tricks have you played on your mind?

Stay strong and beautiful!

Learning to Conquer Fear

The Ugly Truth

I am the first to say that I am not happy about where I am in my life. Not to say that I am not truly grateful for all the blessings in my life. I just find myself in a should’ve, could’ve,  would’ve mentality where I am living with too many regrets.

Regrets, I’ve had a Few

I regret not taking advantage of more opportunities. I regret not taking care of myself earlier on in life, I regret not watching my health, I regret letting myself lose confidence, I regret not going out and putting myself out there,  I regret not asking more (or any) questions, I regret not being more driven, I regret wasting so much time on petty little unnecessary dramatic events that don’t have any impact on my life, I regret not taking things more personally, I regret not thinking ahead, I regret not being financially smarter when I was younger, I regret not taking more initiative and so many more. I could sit here all day and tell you more things that I regret; the list goes on and on.  However, I pledge today, here and now that I will not live with regret any longer and instead charge ahead with confidence and a sense of purpose.

It is up to me to change my life or continue living with regret. I have analyzed my life a day realized that I do or don’t do things out of fear such as fear of failure, fear of not being good enough, fear of embarrassing myself, fear of judgement from others, fear of criticism and fear of being behind in life.

Analyzing Life

I then proceeded to do a root cause analysis if you will on my life and compared what my life is to what it could be. Sure it could go either way, but I have faith that things will always work out, eventually. So now I am focusing all my time and energy doing things that will propel me to success whether it be with respect to my weight, my confidence or my daily life style. I have learned to keep only those in my life who challenge me and tell me the truth and not those who tell me what I want to hear.

“You are only going to be as good as the people you surround yourself with, so be brave                       enough to let go those who keep weighing you down.”                                                                           – Ziad A.

Changing by Choice

In less than two months I am marrying the love of my life and I want to make him proud. He has made me a better person and although I’m too stubborn to see it at times, he teaches me how to be better. it is important to note that I am first and  foremost doing these things for me because I want to be proud of who I am and the life I live. Pleasing others is not my focus nor is it my goal.

I’ve realized that if I want something to happen, it starts with me and no one else. Everyone is too busy living their own life to worry or care about what you are doing with yours. So whatever dreams you have, go for it and don’t let anyone stand in your way!

Do you have any regrets? Who are you living your life for?

Stay strong and beautiful!

Keep on Going

When everyone around you seems to be flying past you in this game of Life, take a step back and evaluate your decisions and choices that have lead you to where you are.

How easy is it to feel alone and overflowing with jealousy when you login to social media to see all your classmates, peers, friends and family moving forward in life…i.e.) engaged, married, pregnant, new parents, etc.

When you see such pictures and status updates of them living perfect lives you have to remember that people want often want to share only the best moments of their lives. It doesn’t help you to take it personally or get jealous or compare yourself to others and to what they have or do not have.

This does nothing to benefit your life; instead be happy for them and use any emotions to fuel your motivation. What we see on social media is literally just snapshots of a person’s life/day. No one knows what goes on behind closed doors or when the camera is off.

Throughout my life this has always guided me to be down to earth, humble and thankful…

“Someone will always be smarter. Their house will be bigger. They will drive a better car. Their children will do better in school. And their partners will fix more things around the house. So let it go and love you and your circumstances. Think about it. The prettiest woman in the world can have hell in her heart. And the most highly favored woman on your job may be unable to have children. The richest woman you know she has the car, the house, the clothes might be heartbreakingly lonely. So, love you. Love who you are right now. Tell yourself, I am too blessed to be stressed.”

Author: Unknown

Always stay true
And keep on doing you
Remember to follow through
And do what you’ve got to do
Envision where you want to be
So you can be financially free
Don’t give up even when it seems impossible
Just have faith and be unstoppable
Success will come when you work hard
Just focus and recondition your mind.

Stay strong and beautiful!

 

Thankful and Blessed Always!

Thank you!

I’ve been thinking about how blessed I am lately. I am surrounded by a strong group of family and friends that support me. Especially my loving fiance, Sean who pushes me to be a better person and my sister, Janice who is always looking out for me. I can’t help but say thank you and be grateful for all my experiences good and bad that have shaped me into the person I am today.

I just wanted to share this poem that I came up with:

Forever Grateful

I am so grateful for everything you have given me
Although at times it may be really hard to see
In trying times I just want to give up the fight
But in the end I know you’ll show me what’s right
For each experience and event teaches us something new
Something that makes me more thankful to you
Life is filled with lessons that we all have to learn
I’ve made so many mistakes that I’m feeling the burn
In times of doubt, I have to believe that a way will be shown
And then sometime in the future I’ll realize how much I’ve grown
Everyday I take some time to plan and clear my mind
So that when I start my day I’m not going in blind
They say time flies when you’re having lots of fun
Some days im so focused I can’t believe the days done
It’s my life and up to me to do what I need to do
No one else can do it for me and same goes for you
I have to say thank you and take the good with the bad
The emotions, the love, the happy and the sad
Thankful and blessed in so many ways
Thank you today, tomorrow and always
I’m now fully committed to improving myself
For my family, my future and loving thyself.

What are you grateful for?

Stay strong and beautiful!

When Do You Feel Your Strongest?

Growing Up

I remember when I was younger my mom would always make me and my siblings spend time outside and walk around the block at least once a day. I used to hate it so much…finding every excuse in the book to avoid it. Telling her I’ll go later knowing that I wouldn’t. But now that I am all grown up I feel privileged when I can go for a run in the day or in the evening and be alone with my thoughts, hopes and dreams.

If only I had listened to my mother and made running or walking at least 30 minutes a part of my daily routine, I would be in much better shape now. Not only would I be several pounds lighter I would also be more mentally strong.

I personally think that I can, at times, be quite dramatic and over emotional. I have improved and gotten stronger over the past few years. I used to let all my feelings build up inside and then just cry about it all. Instead of dealing with my problems I often threw a pity party for myself when I could have been able to clear my head and find solutions to them.

I now think of my future children and the life I want to lead for them; to be healthy and lead a great life of abundance. I now fully understand the importance of health and exercise and eating better.

Time to Reflect

I have been taking time everyday to meditate and really learning to calm my mind..and to find peace with everything. Learning to deal with things that are in my control and letting the things I have no control over just be.

I have been feeling a great sense of joy and empowerment when I am outside in the cool evening breeze, taking in the beauty of this world while listening to my good ol’ MP3 player.

Growing Spiritually

I was raised as a Catholic and recently attended mass this Easter. The sermon was about what it is to have faith. “They found the stone rolled away from the tomb, but when they entered, they did not find the body … but the men said to them, “Why do you look for the living among the dead? He is not here; he has risen!”

I realize now that there is a symbolism in all of the teachings and that to have faith is to be able to believe in something even when there is no proof or explanation. I feel so much stronger these days and feel like I can truly live my dreams and know that it won’t be easy.

Embracing the Grind

I am dedicated to doing something everyday to improve myself and make a better life for myself and my fiancé. My dreams now seem closer and achievable when they once felt so far and near impossible.

Do not underestimate the power that clearing your mind and being able to zone in and conditioning your mind has. Just focus on keeping busy with all the actions you have set out for the day. Pay little attention to what others are doing and make every action of everyday count. If it doesn’t serve you, let it go. This is a guaranteed path to achieving great success.

Are there any events from your childhood that you did not enjoy at the time but now feel blessed to experience??

Stay strong and beautiful!

What Working in the Oil Sands Taught Me

Several months ago I got a job in the Alberta Oil Sands working in one of the camps as a hospitality professional. Reflecting back, there were lots of pros and cons to working there as well as some invaluable lessons that I learned during my time there.

Pros and Cons

Ideal on Paper
* great pay, working just 2 weeks every month – I got a taste of what it’s like to NOT live pay cheque to pay cheque
* free laundry and rooms cleaned for you
* accommodations and food provided
* meeting an endless number of people from all walks of life, which made me more open minded
* all you can eat meals everyday
* access to a 24 hour gym and fitness centre

The Reality
* being away from my fiancé and family and friends
* flying quite frequently – when I used to work Mon to Thurs and fly in and out every week
* long hours of work
* lack of sleep and being so tired that I would eat maybe 1 meal a day

I learned how to live in a world where the concept of time was hard to keep track of. Where sleeping 4 or 5 hours a night was considered a lot.

I knew that this job wouldn’t last forever. …especially in this economy.

Thankful that I was able to save as much as I did. The most important lesson that I learned was how to make financial sacrifices today so that I could have a better tomorrow and a bright future.

I became more independent and was able to save up more money in the 8 months I was there than I ever did in my life prior. It was amazing to see how people with so much money spent it and though I was tempted to splurge and spend, I didn’t.

Never Rely on a Job

 In my case, the whole company was laid off, about 300 employees, from top to bottom. I have some mixed emotions about everything and why it happened but I just have to accept it and move forward.

What’s Next?

That being said, the timing for making the big move back couldn’t have been better…This just pushes me to become my own boss even sooner.

So here I am counting my blessings for my final weeks up here and forever thankful for such a great opportunity.

I can’t wait to see what’s in store for me when I get back to Ontario.

Stay strong and beautiful!

The Great Journey Home

He’s Finally Here!

After six long weeks of not seeing each other, my fiancé is here. Even through the countless flight delays and cancellations, because of the winter storm, he’s here!

Due to some changes in our life, we decided that it would be best to move back to Ontario. And so, a few weeks ago my fiancé and I drove our car from Calgary, AB to Ontario. It was, to say the least, quite an adventure.

And We’re Off

We started our journey on February 25, 2016 and left at 5:11 a.m. We made a quick stop in Medicine Hat, AB to eat some breakfast, fill up on gas and drive. We saw the sunrise, which was and beautifully blinding and drove through several cities and towns.

There was a stretch of the highway where there was a cop car in front of us and a few others for about 40km. It was funny to see everyone who approached the cop slow down abruptly and take their place in line; no one dared to pass him.

We drove for several more hours then made another stop to get gas and grab a bite to eat for lunch. We went to Bushwakker Brewpub in Regina, Saskatchewan. The food was okay, nothing too special. We shared a fleet of beer samplers with our meal and were off again.

Our first destination was Winnipeg, MB where we spent the night to rest and relax. We had an argument in the car prior to reaching Winnipeg and so dinner at Stella’s Café was a bit awkward. By the end of the meal we had talked about our fight and decided that we were both exhausted and moody. We also made sure to pick up a few jars of Stella’s famous jam then headed to our hotel for some well-deserved zzzzz’s….

Day 2

We slept in, ate breakfast and left at 8:00 a.m. on February 26, 2016. We crossed the border and entered Ontario around 9:55 a.m., and lost an hour due to the changing time zone. Excited to be that much closer to reaching home, we filled our bellies and eagerly started the drive to our next destination. As soon as we entered Ontario the roads became winding; driving became more dangerous yet somehow more entertaining. That is until the night driving began. There were no lights and the roads, still winding, were covered with several ‘Night Danger’ signs with pictures of various animals. We drove for about 4 hours through the darkness.

There were even some parts where our visibility was reduced from the howling wind and patches of blowing snow. While we could, we relied on other vehicles to be our guiding lights and tried to keep up with the other drivers on the road. About an hour into the dark drive, we realized that we were the only ones on the road and continued our drive with our high beams on. We were exhausted but grateful that we reached our destination, Wawa, ON, around 10:30 p.m.

Day 3

We got up and left around 8:00 a.m. and having the sun shining bright behind a few clouds made for a very nice drive. Ontario is very pretty and scenic. We saw people out on the lakes, ice fishing and snowmobiling. We saw how huge Lake Superior and other surrounding bodies of water were.

We stopped for lunch in Dryden and drove through Thunder Bay at approximately 4:40p.m. Determined to be home in time for dinner, we made minimal stops, only making trips to the gas station and quick bathroom breaks, we reached home at 6:05 p.m.

The third day my fiancé did ALL the driving, which amounted to approximately 890km.

Home Sweet Home
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This 34 hour driving trip was unforgettable and long but well worth it. Any time spent with him was truly appreciated and special.

Have you ever been on an extended car ride with your significant other? Where exhaustion sets in and tempers flare from being hungry, tired and uncomfortable?

If you want to see if you’re relationship is strong, may I suggest an extended car ride?

Stay strong and beautiful!

 

Life Decisions

Welcome to the year 2016! Where oil prices and interest rates are falling and everything else is rising and life just seems more expensive overall.

I wonder how those who are married, have a mortgage AND have children, do it. I suppose there are sacrifices to make it all work,  we just have to find the right formula that works for us.

What’s Next?

While being engaged is an amazing feeling that I want to enjoy and feel so special that I have found the man I truly want to spend the rest of my life with, that is not the end goal…it is the highly anticipated, exciting yet financially dreaded ‘Wedding‘.

I quite enjoy spending hours and hours on Pinterest gaining ideas and inspiration about themes, colours, photography, cakes as well as browsing and researching countless venues but for now a home takes priority and there will be plenty of time to plan once we get a place.

Type of Wedding

At first I thought it would be the most convenient to have a destination wedding with our closest friends and family in either Hawaii or Jamaica and then throwing a dinner with our family and friends. However, after much research and hearing stories and reading reviews, I felt it would be more intimate and personable to just have a small wedding all at once.

We also considered getting married at City Hall and having a dinner for our guests to announce our marriage. However, I thought about it long and hard and established that I want a wedding, since it only happens once in a lifetime and there are experiences that come out of planning a wedding that cannot be attained otherwise.

We have still not finalized a date and are thinking about what would season would work best for us.

Getting our Priorities Right

For my fiance and I, a wedding is something that we both want however, we are both thinking long term and feel that the timing for us to buy a place to call home couldn’t be better, and we want to take advantage of this great opportunity. After many discussions with my fiance, we have decided that the time to return to Ontario has come. Living in a city that is literally driven by oil and gas price with prices as low as 68.4 cents and a layoff, made our decision that much easier.

To Ontario We Go…

One thing that I can say is that the pace in life between Alberta and Ontario is very different; I never experienced the hustle and bustle of Toronto in Calgary. Everyone is so friendly and very laid back. Most of the people I worked with were just content with what they were doing. The drive and determination that is seen almost everywhere in Toronto is just not found in Alberta. Don’t get me wrong, I am not saying that people are lazy or not hardworking, there just isn’t the same level of stress, pressure and sense of urgency that I feel many Torontonians possess.

Although I am extremely excited and looking forward to moving back to Ontario, the 34 hour drive back will be quite the adventure! There are so many things about Alberta that I will miss dearly, especially the breathtaking views of the mountains on a mild, clear day.

I’ve finished packing most of our stuff and it’s a bittersweet moment. I will spend my last few weeks here taking in all the scenic views of the mountains that I can, the fresh air and the brisk but beautiful weather. I would like to thank Alberta, for the friends I have made, the places I’ve seen and the experiences that have made me into a stronger and smarter person today.

Bring it On

So while the wedding is still very much on my mind, I can’t help but shift some of my focus to the Ontario Real Estate Market. We have been preparing for the joys and disappointments of house hunting and hope to find our home soon.

We are both very happy and determined, so let the bidding wars begin…

Stay strong and beautiful!

Do you have any wedding tips, tricks or advice?

Do you think the real estate bubble will burst?

2015 in a Nutshell

After a longg break let’s start the year off right.

Live and Grow

While I wasn’t exactly busy crossing off things on my bucket list, I was doing a lot of learning, growing and maturing.

So much happened in 2015 that has shaped me into the person I am today. I learned so much that I would otherwise not have experienced until much later in life. I learned to become more independent and reliable. I learned that distance does absolutely make the heart grow fonder and that setting goals and working your ass off will help you get to your next milestone.

In our life we have the ability and opportunity to make choices and use our judgment to come to the decision that works best for us. 2015 was definitely a year filled with lots of learning. Most importantly, I learned to let go of the negative things that did not serve me; whether it was people, mindsets or habits.

I want to thank everyone who has contributed to my life, friends who were there to support me or give me advice, friends to hear me rant and vent, and those who were there when I needed them the most. Even though I am far away, nothing beats talking to a friend on the phone, when face to face isn’t an option.

So to ALL of you, I Thank you. Thank you for putting up with me when I was difficult and stubborn and inconsiderate. I see how I used to act in others and am so grateful that I have FINALLY matured and learned to take action and responsibility for my life….and the blessings just keep coming.

Concluding 2015

The best part of 2015 has to be when my loving boyfriend of over 7 years proposed on new years eve. It was very unexpected, spontaneous and such a happy moment that I will remember FOREVER.

We are still deciding when we would like to get married but are looking forward to spending time with friends and family and experiencing the ups and downs of planning the biggest day of our lives.

I have slowly realized that weddings are more for family then it is for the actual bride and groom; it is a chance for family and relatives to reunite and make memories together, a time where friends come together to have fun and a day to be cherished by the bride and groom that is filled with love, happiness, laughter and even some tears.

You are too blessed to be stressed so stay strong and beautiful!